For an educated woman I’m about to go off at a bit of a tangent. We’re not talking astronomy today, but astrology.
Let’s start with a question, what star sign are you?
Aries, Leo and Scorpio women illustrations via ElleUK
I realise plenty of you will be reading this thinking What? Did she really just ask me that? but to me it’s second nature, having been brought up surrounded by talk of star signs and personality types. So much so that one day when I was only a toddler and sitting quietly while my Mum and her best friend, my Aunty Angela pondered the character of one person or another, I turned around, leaned over the back of my chair and said in a deadly serious voice, ‘I’m an Aries you know.’ Whilst you won’t see me pay more than a passing glance to daily or monthly horoscopes, get me started on personalities and star signs and I could talk all day.
“The Aries girl will open her own doors. She’ll also put on her own coat, fight her own battles … without any help. Doing it herself is, to her, the fastest way to get it done.”
I know it’s an opinion distinctly lacking in science and in some cases, it just doesn’t wash. I’m an Aries, as I said above, and Pete’s an Aquarius, we’re really not supposed to mix well. Not every aspect of my personality fits with the Arien type but the majority of it is bang on.
It’s funny too, call it co-incidence but I’ve only had 2 major bust ups in terms of friendships with women in my life, both exploded from first meeting to being inside each other’s pockets 24/7 and talking everyday, about everything. Both declined slowly into a realisation of mutual dislike and eventually a resounding silence after several bust ups. Both were the same star sign.
“The Aries wife will probably make an excellent impression on your boss, if you can keep her from telling him how to run his business.”
Exactly the same happened with 2 men that have played a big part in my life, neither romantic, both who became close friends, big listeners, soothers, sounding boards. Both eventually completely let me down by behaving in a way that showed they never knew me at all… both the same star sign (and not the same one as the girls mentioned above.)
Those 4 probably represent the biggest problems I’ve ever had in life with relationships and I find it more than co-incidence that they each played out in the same way completely, the second time around an echo of the first experience. On the converse side, my best friends in life are all Aries too and Taurus. These are the people who can cope with my energy and direct attitude best, although the Taureans may find me a little full-on at times.
“She must be proud of you to love you. But don’t be so important that you neglect to notice her talents… Though she’ll demand a lot from you, she’ll give double measure in return.”
It’s all so ingrained in me that I like nothing more than asking new people what their star sign is, like I’m looking for some verification of my internal compass, then silently congratulating myself on my assessment of them. When friends complain about a colleague or friend, I’m right in there, analysing the reasons their star sign would contribute to the situation and when it comes to love, I’m always hoping they found the right match. For years and years I’ve kept my Mums book on Sun Signs to hand and I like nothing better than reading the (slightly dated) summaries of each sign, virtues and flaws revealed, then mulling it over blended with my experience of their character. (All the quotes scattered throughout this post are taken from Linda Goodman’s Sun Signs, The Aries woman chapter, published in 1972.)
“The world resents a female that talks back… When she discovers she doesn’t really run the universe after all, she’ll come running … her world all dark and dismal.”
I know it’s not logical or even sane, but it’s surprising how many people will admit to an interest, or more than passing knowledge of star signs and how they relate to their personalities. Perhaps it just appeals to the part of everyone that likes to talk about themselves and their own personal qualities. Or perhaps like nay-sayers shout, we just bend what we read to fit ourselves, or the situation we find ourselves in. Or perhaps we just want to fit in.
So tell me, do you believe in star signs? Are you ‘true to type’ or have you had any experiences of relationships good or bad that relate back to star signs? I’d love to hear your thoughts, even if only to laugh at my delusions!