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I think for many of you reading I won’t be the first one to share the Selfish Mother #GoodTees project, but I recently bought one and haven’t stopped wearing it, so had to share.

The Mother Shop is full of sweatshirts (boyfriend style, scoop necks and new pastel summer weight scoop necks just added,) with brilliant slogans for busy mama’s. Mine is grey with a bright coral ‘Winging It’ emblazoned across the front, but there are simpler ones like ‘Mama’ or 80′s throwback fonts and titles like ‘Maverick’. Best of all, theres a charitable donation made form all the profits:

*When we say ‘all profits’ this means £15 from the sale of each sweat going straight to help others!

As of January 2016 we’ve donated over £75,000 to charities including Women for Women International, KIDS, Help Refugees UK & The Refugee Council. Simply by kitting you out! Help us raise more and wear your allegiance on your chest…

I’m about to buy another one because right now, this ticks all my ‘getting dressed int the morning’ boxes. Super soft, comfy, washable, looks great with jeans… and done!

Get yours here and tag me on Instagram if you do!

Rebecca xo

How I Wore: March

Hello there Readers!

Well wasn’t that a blustery weekend!? I really wish all the days could have been like Friday which was a perfect Spring day  here but no. Torrential rain, hailstones,l and galeforce winds prevailed. Oh well, at least there was Chocolate! And Roast Lamb. I think I prefer the latter…

On to “How I’ve Worn” March. The month has seen me return to work after 10 months Mat Leave. That went fast! I can’t deny its busy of a morning (understatement), and I’ve been pretty slack at taking daily photos, but my return to work outfits have mostly consisted of dresses which has been quite liberating after months of “one up one down”, plus they are a no-brainer of a put-together outfit.


Topshop Dress / Ash Boots

H&M Jumper (old) / George Skirt (old) / R&B Boots

I’ve also worn a fair bit of green. Don’t ask me why, I’ve just been drawn to it. Especially Khaki. Oh, and flat shoes. My  Apple Watch tells me I now walk around 14,000 steps a day, and that’s just my commute to and from the office now we’ve moved to basically Shoreditch. Any walking between meetings is extra. Heels are firmly in my bag to change in to these days!

Something new for me though has been on the beauty side of things – I introduced a darker lipstick into my make-up bag and I must say I’m rather liking it. Definitely one for more reds/oranges (Nars Red Sqaure being my favourite), this wine colour is really growing on me. The lipstick itself is also amazing. Very hydrating and good colour – from a brand I didn’t know. One to try if you are in the market for a new lippy. There’s a fab range of colours. 

You’ll also see in the picture above my Mothers Day gift from all three of the guys in my life. An initial for each of them on different metals (Silver for R, Gold for C and Rose Gold for O). A very thoughtful, and unexpected, gift :)

I’ll try and be better for April. I’m hoping that Spring will finally, well spring, so I can relegate the Opaques and boots for bare ankles and no socks at least!

Enjoy the last couple of days of the month and I’ll be back next week with my roundup.

Erin xx 

What to Buy: March

Morning Readers!

So supposedly Spring is upon us, and whilst the cherry and magnolia (my favourite) trees are blossoming, it’s doesn’t feel very Spring-like. I spent the day in London with Hubby on Saturday celebrating our 5th Wedding Anniversary and it was certainly fresh!

However, the shops are full of all things Spring so here are a few of my favourites to add to your “What to Buy” lists this month.



M&S Shirt (instore only) / ASOS Dress

I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with frills. I love them, they hate me. I’ve managed to make them work in the past by wearing a vertical frill, or a frilled hem, but anything up top has been a no-no, just adding bulk to my shoulders and chest that I certainly don’t need. I now know that if you are over a C cup, frills aren’t your friend, but I’ve found a couple of options this year that do actually work. I’d suggest sizing up in the M&S shirt but both are nice nods to the trend (and in one of my favourite shades).

Nana Shoes


Topshop / Mango

These are marmite and the men in your life won’t understand them, but they ARE comfortable and crutially, give a little bit of height. It’s taken me a while to accept these, as I’ve not found a pair I’ve LOVED. Something about the elastic on the front toe puts me off, but this Topshop pair is more of a ballet pump with a heel. Plus, they go with everything despite the print. I’m all about comfort these days, especially as I have to walk at least four miles a day now I’m back to work, so these are a nice in-between style.

Kick Flare Jeans


ASOS / Topshop*

I’m talking of the cropped variety here, not full length – they’re still a little 90s for me – but don’t underestimate the leg lengthening qualities of these. Wear now with boots and into Spring/Summer with trainers/wedges/espedrilles. *The Topshop version I’ve linked to are the Tall version but stores have the regular version in stock.

Nike Cortez   

Available at ASOS

Hands up who had a pair of these in the past? That’ll be me at university. A white leather pair with blue swoosh. And my goodness did I love them to death. Those paired with a denim button up a-line skirt were my uniform. The Cortez seem to have had a resurrection of late and metallics, colours and the fresh white (from Forrest Gump fame) all feature highly for this Spring/Summer. It must be my comfort quest coming out again, and my “Original” trainer obsession, but I do love these.



Zara / Zara / M&S

There’s a caveat here. There is some AWFUL embroidery around at the moment IMO (Zara I’m looking at you) but also some very wearable styles if coloured stitching is your kind of thing. I love the dress featured here but I hate the fact the back is sheer. What’s that all about? How does one wear a bra comfortably (can you see a theme here?!) Personally, I’m not into oriental things (or Bomber jackets – see Chest issues above!), but there’s no denying the detail on this jacket is gorgeous (and a good price point). 

I hope this has inspired you a little as to what’s around. It’s a bit of a weird season in all honesty, but the above items are definitely my favourites!

Will be back at the end of the month…

Erin xx

Spring Capsule Wardrobe update… (2016)

Before todays post, I just wanted to say that you for all your comments on my last post – Mama Body certainly struck a chord with lots of you and I hope you’ve all found the same reassurance and comfort in the responses that I did. x

When I started the whole ‘capsule wardrobe’ revolution in my life, the intent was to do a new capsule every season, so 4 a year. (For those not familiar with the idea that doesn’t mean a whole new wardrobe 4 times a year, rather refining it, adding a few new pieces and clearing out old/worn out/unsuitable for the season pieces so everything works together.) In fact, I find I prefer to have 2 big overhauls a year, for summer and mid-autumn. Around April/May and Oct/Nov seems to work for me and the whole point of capsule wardrobes is to make life easier, so how ever it works for you is the right way, not rigidly following my plan or anyone else’s. However, right about now, I always feel a strong need for a fresh injection of fun and colour into my wardrobe so I thought I’d share the pieces I recently bought to do just that.

Hare with crown jumper £69.95 // GAP stripe ‘Voyager’ embroidered top £19.99 // Kitty drop shoulder knit back jumper £79.95
Shirt Tail Knit £69 // Triangle print Dress £29.99 // Sailor Stripe dress £39.95

New clothes at this time of year is, for me, about addressing two things: colour and lighter layers. I’m over the warm tones of my autumn wardrobe and dark winter cosy layers. I want spring brights but I still don’t want to feel like I’m dressed inappropriately for the grey days still ahead. Fortunately it’s not difficult to do as the stores roll out spring collections that are woefully inappropriate for the weather still but thankfully included spring orientated brights. My favourite shops buy into this whole heartedly… if you’re looking for a cheap update GAP is always full of brights and stripes that signal spring. I also needed to deal with a gaping hole in my capsule, which was going out clothes. Date night is a casual affair these days but more recently I’ve been going out with friends more, entertaining more and getting out with Pete more. I’ve really been scratching about in my wardrobe for suitable options so I needed a couple of nicer things that could be dressed up. Here’s what I’ve ended up with…

Tops are always my main focus as I’ll continue to live in jeans for months yet. Last years white/blue stripe breton has seen better days and my navy/white one feels tired too, so I went for a change with this embroidered one with a nautical nod. I love a sloppy oversized fine knit and this woven front one is still navy so not too summery, but couldn’t be happier with the bright floral splashes on it. (Also loving the potential for styling with some white jeans in summer as per the stock image.) For colder days I loved this grey jumper. I can see it will be a wardrobe stable in this colour but the quirky hare and his crown add a splash of cheer that I can see worn with brighter bottom half options in a few months.

For going out, as I’ve said, a lot of the time it’s a very casual affair for us but other than my staple breton stripes, I’m lacking in dressier tops… This one is a beautiful soft grey and has a collar bone revealing scoop neck, with a delicate lower layer that is flattering when you want to eat a really good meal. ;) With a pretty necklace and skinny jeans, this will get a lot of use for nights out here. When the occasion calls for it however, I’m excited about wearing this triangle print dress. It was a total bargain from H&M, fits really well with a good amount of stretch and is flattering and comfortable. A winner all round. Lastly I couldn’t resist this tunic style striped dress. I’ve been after one for a while and today I’m wearing it with glitter converse style trainers (check it out over on Instagram) and tights but in summer it’ll be great with bare legs and wide strapped sandals.

So that’s it for another couple of months. If I can muster the time and energy I’ll do some outfit posts of how I’m integrating these into my current wardrobe, then look out for my spring/summer capsule in a couple of months! :)

Rebecca x

How to Wear: January

Good Morning Readers

I hope you have all had good January’s. Mine has been interesting to say the least. Little did I think that it would include a four day hospital stay for Pneumonia! I’m feeling a lot better now, but it did take me, and my whole family by surprise. The one good thing that came out of the experience was that I actually got a chance to read (not much else to do in hospital!) so I’ve made a good dent into one of my New Year Goals.

Due to that stay, and the week preceding my admission when I wasn’t feeling well at all (I thought I had the flu), I’ve not really been wearing anything that exciting. I did make a couple of cheeky purchases though.

One was a fantastic pair of jeans from a boutique local to me, Quattro Rich. They are a pair of Twist & Tango jeans and the perfect burgundy red colour – something that will go very well with a lot in my wardrobe. Not proper ‘denim’ but more of a heavy cotton twill, they are so flattering on the leg. Quattro Rich stock a lot of Twist & Tango bits (these jeans have unfortunately sold out) but it’s always worth giving Ivy and her team a call to see what they have, as she does offer a mail order service. The best bit about these were that they were a sales bargain – thank you January.

Another item I got was actually some underwear. I have to admit it’s been a struggle finding underwear to wear that’s comfortable whilst nursing. I have been massively put off nursing bras since I had a bad bout of Mastitis in the Autumn (I partly blame the fact I got it on a bad fitting bra I had from a well-known Mother & Baby retailer, even though they measured me. Turns out they measured me hugely incorrectly!). Since then, I have been wearing some vests from H&M which have been great, but lacking in support. I was then looking for something of a similar ilk, and came across this vest. What can I say – life-changing! Not only does it give you good support and good access, plus feels so nice on – the straps are so comfortable – it slims your silhouette so clothes look better on. A miracle in a vest! Granted, they aren’t the cheapest option around, but for something I have worn EVERY DAY, the cost-per-wear is low. Once I’m wearing something other than jeans and a sweatshirt again, I’ll post a picture of the difference it makes underneath clothes. Really, I can’t recommend these enough if you are nursing, or about to be as I know some of you are.

Finally, I had my first outing in a new pair of boots. I succumbed and bought a pair of Topshop Magnificent “Sock” boots. I own a fair few midi skirts and dresses, plus cropped jeans/culottes, and had read that these would be perfect to update them for winter. The reviews weren’t wrong. Very comfortable with a good heel hight (I had to size up but I often do in Topshop shoes), they are great boots – perfect Cognac brown colour and a modern toe shape. The purchase was made all the more sweet as I had a credit note burning a hole in my purse. Win Win.

Apologies again that there aren’t more pictures of me. I am on the mend, and come the end of Feb, I’m sure I’ll be back again in full health. I’ll be back soon with what to buy in February… Until then!

Erin xx


What to Buy: January 2016

Well HELLO Readers and a Happy New Year to you all :)

As Rebecca announced earlier this week, she is back blogging and I’m happy to say that that means I’ll be resuming too. I’ll be writing the usual two posts every month, but I may also dip in here and there with some anecdotal pieces.

2015 went by in a flurry of renovations and baby arrivals, so I’m hoping that the 2016 pace slows a little to let us breathe and enjoy. The start of the New Year invariably heralds “resolutions” and whilst I like the idea of starting afresh, I’m loathed to call them resolutions, as they are more than often broken before the month is out. Like Rebecca, I’ve given myself some “goals” which I’d like to try and live by for the year (and beyond), by and large, plus five seem achievable. Here they are:

So I know you are thinking, what has this got to do with “What to Buy”. The second of the goals is key for me. I’ve (and actually we’ve) just got too much stuff. I’m in the process of a real edit of my clothes and I’ve started to read this (fulfilling another goal!) which just cements my feelings (after having first read this too and resonated with most of it – Rebecca and I are obviously on the same wavelength here ;) ).

Whilst though I am purging a lot, mostly through eBay and then Charity Donations and local Facebook groups, I’m not saying I won’t buy a thing throughout the year. That to me is unachievable. I can however be clever in my purchases, hopefully favouring things that will last, or at least go with 50% of my wardrobe, therefore making them hard workers. There will also be some seasonal additions I’m sure. I’ll be looking carefully at my current clothing stash before purchasing anything to see if something I already own does the job of filling a fashion need. As I go through this edit, I’ll let you know how I’m getting on, and my approach to how I’ve found/done it, if that’s of interest… Ultimately, I’m hoping the clean out will just make like that little bit easier – it’s certainly got a LOT busier with two small men in my life!

On to January purchases then… These are some things which I’ve seen on emails and some in store that I think will work hard for you all year, starting now.

Fur Gilet


H&M // New Look

These are showing no let up, and with the milder winter we seem to be having, they are a great addition to your wardrobe to throw over a jumper and some jeans to give it that extra edge.

Roll Neck Jumper


Uniqlo // La Redoute // H&M 

I’ve learnt to love these over the past couple of months. I favour a turtleneck kind of style, or if it is a roll neck, it needs to be in Merino or some such other fine wool to keep the bulk to a minimum. They are a wardrobe saviour IMO – again, something to slip over skinny jeans or leggings with boots or pumps. Go for a size larger than you’d usually wear to balance out the slim silhouette on your lower half.

Chelsea Boots

Ash // H&M // ASOS 

Actually a boot style that I don’t own, Chelsea boots automatically make a casual outfit look smarter. The right pair can also work well with dresses and skirts too. Just make sure that the sole has a thin profile.

Cross Body Bag


French Connection // Cambridge Satchel Co. // Topshop // M&S

This style has come into its own for me in the 7 months since Oscar was born. Wearing him in the sling, or at least pushing him in the buggy whilst trying to hold Calum’s hand, called for a new bag solution. From the small and neat, to the larger, yet practical, you won’t be sorry for making this purchase. Having your hands free is a revaltion!

Long Sleeved Dress


ME&EM // Topshop

Something that can be worn now, with a jumper or waistcoat and boots, or into the spring with sandals, pumps or wedges, the long sleeved dress is something of a wardrobe updater. Keep the style either maxi, or a midi-length that works for your height to avoid frumpiness, but don’t be afraid to play with patterns. Block colour is obviously the classic choice though to make sure you get the most wear out it it.

So there you have it… five things to seek out if you can brave the shops and you have some Gift Cards perhaps burning a hole after Christmas. I’ll keep you posted with my Edit progress. It’s not something that’s going to happen overnight. In my head, I’ll be done by the end of 2016, but that does include the rest of the house too, not just my wardrobe. I’ll also let you know how I’m getting on with the rest throughout the year too.

It’s nice to be back! Until the end of the month…

Erin xx




How to Wear: October

Morning Readers!

A super-short post this morning as October seems to have whizzed by in a flurry of birthdays (mine), Baptisms (Oscar’s) and illness (all of us!)

I spent the day of my birthday at one of our local National Trust properties with the boys and my Mum, and true to form, I wore denim and khaki.

Next up was Oscar’s Baptism. A wonderful afternoon spent with our closest friends and family to celebrate his birth. The service was lovely as it was just us after the main Mass of the day (being Catholic we didn’t want to make the Baptism part of the whole service for those of our non-Catholic friends & family…). I wore an Off-White dress from & Other Stories which I loved. Again, so nice to be able to dress up for the afternoon. Oscar wore a Gown made by my Mum from the remnants of my bridesmaid dresses which she also made. The plan was for him to wear my Christening Gown but he was too big for it unfortunately!


 The other thing I’ve been trying to do is wear all of my old jeans and purge those I’m not happy with. These are two of the keepers – some bootcuts and some Indigo Skinnies. (My obsession with stripes knows no bounds!)

 And lastly, a very exciting Birthday Present…

It’s already made me move around more than I would normally, and I took a call on it yesterday… Weird!

I’ll be back soon with What to Buy in November… ;)

Erin xx 

The Fash Flash: A NY (capsule) state of mind

One of the things that has struck me about putting my Autumn capsule together has been the positive and lasting effect capsule wardrobe planning has had on me. This Autumn marks my 12 month anniversary of building and living with a capsule wardrobe. I honestly don’t cheat and if you don’t see it on here I don’t wear it – everything else gets stored away, donated or sold. Sometimes when I’m building my wardrobe at the beginning of a season I feel frivolous updating my wardrobe and spending what amounts to quite a bit of money in a short space of time but while I was away recently it came to my attention that I have become really choosy about the pieces I buy. More than a few times I was heard saying ‘I’m going to leave this, I don’t love it.’ – Words to live by people.

I’ve always been a massive fan of American retailers and though my tastes have changed over the years I’ve been shopping there on holidays (GAP, Macys, the discount department stores, to newer favourites of American Eagle, J.Crew and now, Madewell,)I always come back with a stuffed suitcase. This year it was a finely edited selection and I thought I’d share a few pieces with you ahead of my capsule wardrobe reveal.

Lydia flat (sale instore purchase, but a couple available here) – I’ve been after a pair of animal print flats as a wardrobe classic that will last for many a season for ages, so I snapped this pair up in the sale.

Bite beauty Lush Lip tint in Watermelon - my favourite super-moisturising lipstick in a new rosy-nude shade for Autumn.

Shapeline Bangle set - Madewell. Because my capsule doesn’t include accessories ;)

Transport Tote - Madewell. Remember how I wrote this post on looking for a tote bag? well, really, I wanted this one but I didn’t realise it came in my favourite shade-of-the-seaosn, this dark merlot colour.l (Tip! I got it mongrammed!)

Sunglasses - American Eagle - I forgot mine and we were fortunate to have great weather for much of the trip so I tested out my first pair of aviators with a budget pair while I got used to the new shape on me.

Nike Free trainers (girls range – did you know they’re a lot cheaper and go up to size 6?) – After September Shape up, I’m still intent on getting back to exercise and needed some new trainers. This is the first pair I’ve purchased in the lighter ‘free’ style and The colour works with my capsule too for wearing-around-town trainer days.

Boyfriend shirt – J.Crew – I love checked shirts but already have two in bright cranberry shades so when I saw this one in a fresher blue and white combo that will brighten up my monotone capsule and last into winter and spring, I snapped it up.

Resolution true skinny Jeans – GAP. I always try to save trainer and jeans purchases for in the US if I’m planning a trip and I was finally able to buy a pair in my usual size while we were away, although after all the over indulgence, I’m not sure if I’ll still fit them now we are back. ;)

I’ll be back with more holiday stores too including itineraries, where we stayed and what we did, but let me know if this is looking a lot like your favourite wardrobe pieces now too !

Love, Rebecca


What to Buy: October

Ahhhh, the Autumn. My favourite season of all and the start of the time of year I love the most. What is there not to get excited about? Halloween, Fireworks, Thanksgiving (14 years of working for an American company has rubbed off on me), and then Christmas. I’m sure I’ve said this before, but having children of my own has really made these “holidays” even more special. And to top this all off – the cooler climes and the parties mean clothes I love to dress up in too ;)

October should be the time that you start to think about the winter months, and it’s wise to invest in some pieces that will see you through to the New Year, even if you think it may be a little premature. You and I you know what will inevitably happen. You’ll see it now, love it, and then dilly-dally and when you do want it, it’ll be sold out! (This is what usually happens to me)

Something has struck me this season though. The mid-mid season sales. Huh? We all got excited about the new season drops at the end of August, but in fact, those were just teasers to the pieces that we ACTUALLY wanted. Oh no, those pieces are coming into stores shortly, and the August/early September pieces are now going into sale. Naughty, naughty retailers.

So here’s what I think you’ll regret not at least seriously looking at/trying on, if not buying, for those cooler months. Don’t say I didn’t warn you…!

A Coat 

Grey / Burgundy

Probably a no-brainer, but if you want one that you actually want and/or like, then now’s the time to have a look. This seasons styles range from bright block colours to grey; from Pea Coats to Parkas. Pretty much anything goes. I REALLY like the Zara grey coat – something that would pretty much go with everything, and dressed up or down. I also love a red coat. I still have one I bought from Oasis a million years ago, and will be dragging it out this winter. The perfect colour to pop your outfits. There’s also a red out there for all colourings – from pillar box to burgundy.



Jacket / Dress / Top / Sweatshirt

What’s not to love about sequins – ideal for the festive season. This bomber jacket will add a certain something to an every day outfit – casual yet special. Or perhaps for something a little less bling, this dress is a nice nod. Get it now whilst it’s in the sale ;)

Fringed Boots 

ASOS / M&S / Zara / Next

Less yes-ha and actually more chic, these are everywhere. Choose a style with a heel height to suit. I can vouch for the M&S Autograph ones – easy to walk in with their “Insolia Technology” and a fringe that’s not too out-there. The Next ones come highly rated too. Keep them black so that you definitely stay away from the Western look.

Wide Leg Trousers 

M&S / Zara / ASOS

These remind me of a time just after university into starting my career and are now back again. The luxe look of a wool pair, teamed with a fitted coat and perhaps even trainers, really appeals. Make sure your top half is fitted to balance out the look.

The long sleeveless Cardigan 

Topshop / H&M / ASOS

Last month it was the long cardigan, now we have lost the sleeves :) I know this won’t be a look that everyone can manage – in my opinion you need to be over 5’5″ to be able to wear this effectively – but it’s a great in-between and layering option. I wouldn’t go so far however as to prescribe a coat in this style, layering under a coat for the winter is tricky. Stick to neutral colours that will tone or contrast with, what you wear underneath.

I must also mention Shearling. Something that comes out most winter seasons, this year sees it featuring in coats, waistcoats and even accessories. Although faux, this waistcoat is a nice nod to the trend – great to throw over a jumper, worn with jeans or a skirt and opaques.

Until the end of the month then… Have great Octobers!

Erin xx

PS: I read with interest Rebecca’s post at the beginning of the week about her Autumn List. I’ve been watching Jamie Oliver’s new Superfood series, and last night cooked the Squash Dhal for supper. It was DELICIOUS! Winter comfort food without the bulk and calories – sorted as Jamie would say. Give it a try if you can…


Triple Temptation: Brown Leather Tote

Now Bea is getting bigger and with the majority of our trips being local, I tend to just grab a nappy, some wipes, a bib and some snacks. So for the first time in a long time, this Autumn I’m not just thinking about clothes, but a new bag that’s not the changing bag.

Reversible vegan leather tote – Urban Outfitters // Zip Transport Tote – Madewell // Brown leather tote- Etsy

In the past, I’ve always favoured medium sized bags, big enough to look stylish but without the weight or size of a bigger bag. This season, I’m thinking about oversized totes, both for practicality and the slouchy style that suits the way I’m dressing right now. It also happens to coincide with the first time I’ve looked at a bag that is brown in years, but it just seems so right as the weather gets cooler paired with berry shades and rich navy, plus mixing leather colours feels very on trend right now.

Have you got a favourite readers? Seen anything similar I should check out?