Bea at Two

Just over a month ago, Bea turned two. Gone are the days of measuring her age in months and gone is my baby. Theres now a true toddler in the house, and don’t we all know it!

It’s true what they say, that they just get more and more fun as they get older. I couldn’t understand when Pete used to say already at even 1 year old that she was so much more interesting now than a newborn (that with Bea we were endlessly fascinated by,) and another small one would be so, well, boring by comparison. Although I remember that new mum obsession well, I can finally see what he means. Bea is my little companion now, chats all day and has her own little ways and plans. God help me when they don’t align with mine.

Beautiful balmy evening for playing in the garden!

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We still baby wear (the photo taken here was only a week ago), favouring it over a pram. In fact we used the pram for a wedding a couple of weekends ago, purely to put her in during the evening reception once she had fallen asleep in the wrap. The time I had used it previously was a few weeks before last Christmas for a big shopping trip – thats how seldom we do reach for it. I’m lucky I guess in that she is still pretty tiny for her age (she remains on the 9th gentile and currently weighs about 26lbs,) but she is also not wrapped for anywhere near as long as she used to be, having been keen to walk since about 22 months I’d say. Of course, little legs get tired and soon enough she reaches up with arms outstretched saying ‘carry,’ and now I can’t carry her as long in arms, she still has to go in the wrap. The difference is she often specifies if she goes on the front or back. In fact, beyond basic transportation, it has been a godsend for generally calming her as a toddler. When situations have been overwhelming, when she is tired, teething or unhappy for some reason, sometimes I still reach for the wrap just to reconnect and re-set and it has never failed us.

I’m going to go out on a limb and say the ‘terrible two’s haven’t really hit here yet. Bea started to tantrum around the age of 1, when she couldn’t have a toy or some other item (usually something dangerous/unsuitable,) but was always easily distracted. Now I find her behaviour deteriorates when she is tired, (no change there then,) and also clearly when she is seeking attention. I have always said, Bea is 100% amazing when you give her 100% of your attention! Thats not to say she’s outwardly demanding it – she doesn’t dance around me saying ‘look at me’ just yet, but she does immediately start doing mischievous/naughty things when I’m not able to give her all of my attention and that’s when I really risk loosing it with her. No amount of ‘Just wait one minute while Mummy does this‘ will work and infact, she does progressively worse things which makes me more mad and I have to remind myself in these situations to just stop, sort her out and come back to whatever I was doing later.

Girl on the train. #toddlersofinstagram #biggirl #two #love

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Speech has been the biggest change in Bea over recent months. She really didn’t start saying words until she was about 19months, then new words came thick and fast. At two she was starting sentences and now she tells me whole stories about something that has happened or she wants to do. I absolutely love that we can have little conversations about things. At the end of the day she can tell me what she has done and her little observations can be really funny!

Just around the age of two we had a really difficult phase with pushing. Bea has never pushed other kids despite being subjected to it a lot herself and we couldn’t decide if it was a learned behaviour or frustration. I eventually recognised after a lot of chatting to mum friends and a bit of reading that she was feeling really overwhelmed and frustrated in social situations, particularly when toys were involved. It is natural for parents I think to encourage sharing as a necessary social skill but it took me time to realise she (and kids her age) aren’t capable of it. She was previously good at ‘sharing’ but on reflection she was just ‘giving’ toys to other kids when we asked. I eventually read a really useful article about how you shouldn’t encourage sharing, but the child (be it yours or another child,) who has the toy gets to keep it for as long as they want. You have to empathise with your child that they don’t get to have it just yet but explain when the other child is done, they can play with it then. This is supposed to make them feel more secure that when they themselves have a toy they want they will get to keep it as long as they would like and not cause pushing to get/keep a toy. It solved the problem here within 2 weeks.

Fortunately Bea continues to be a great sleeper. We have had our blips, often unexplained, but we had a month long particularly memorable spell of her not letting me put her down just before she was 2. I was exhausted mentally by having to wrap her or hold her for an hour or more and the effect that was having on my ‘me time’ after her bedtime. We thought about letting her cry it out as she was definitely of an age that she knew if she cried I would come back but she has never done this unless she has needed me for one reason or another. Leaps, teething, illness, so I ploughed through and just like that she stopped again and went back to normal.

We have also finally finished breastfeeding. I think bea was about 2 and 2 months-ish, and finally stopped of her own accord which was what I wanted. I have a lot more to say about our whole BF journey so I’ll save that for another post.

One major change that has come at just the right time, is that Bea is becoming really happy to play alone now. It’s a developing skill, but she will pick up books and ‘read’ (recite) them to herself or me, toddle off to the playroom to play with her train set or play with a puzzle while I get ready. It doesn’t always work and it doesn’t last for long but I’m certainly looking forward to it improving!

I could write all day about where she is up to and more, partly because this was such an overdue post but something else has been keeping me from blogging and that’s a new baby! :) I’m half way through now and we are incredibly excited and happy to be growing our little family. Bea is (so far) very excited too – most entertainingly looking into my belly button to ‘see the baby!’ and giving my bump big pats and cuddles.

Please do let me know where you guys are all up to with your little ones?

Rebecca x

11 thoughts on “Bea at Two

  1. Congratulations on your baby news Rebecca. I come on here periodically to see any updates. My daughter was born at the same time as Bea so it has been lovely to see your latest installment.
    We continue to have terrible 2′s tantrums daily, Zara is very strong willed but I think a lot is frustration as she still isn’t speaking. Only managing to say mama, no and orange! I just assumed as she is the second child that speech would come naturally by learning things from her older brother.
    Lovely to see Bea is interested in the new baby. I bought Zane a book called ‘what’s in mummy’s tummy’ by Sam Llyod when I was pregnant and the kids still love reading it now.

  2. Congratulations, look forward to hearing all about the new baby and coping with two. Also very interested in your breastfeeding story as my little boy is 10 months and I’m starting to get family pressure to stop.

  3. Love hearing about Bea. She is adorable. Also many congratulations on your lovely news.

    I have a three nearly four year old now and she is changing so much. She has a real love for learning at the moment, which is fabulous. Had two miscarriages this year, but all being well going to be having a second in May next year.

    Xxxx

  4. Lovely to hear your news! Congratulations! My little girl is now three months old and time has started flying by! It’s been great to reread your old posts from when Bea was tiny and I’d be very interested to hear about your breastfeeding journey too. Hope the pregnancy is going well X

  5. Congratulations! What lovely news. I would also be interested to hear more about the breastfeeding journey. I have an 11 month old boob monster and feeling a lot of pressure to wean. We baby wear too but he’s already 26 pounds so not sure how long we will be able to continue! I’m getting good arm muscles!

  6. Really lovely to hear from you and read about your relationship with Bea and all your special news. Thanks for sharing and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

  7. Congratulations! My little girl is 6 months today, how time is flying. I’d love to hear your breastfeeding journey and how you juggled feeding Bea and returning to work. We are struggling to get G to bottle feed, as she just prefers the boob so gives up on the bottle in protest when it’s offered (despite drinking from it fine when she was younger). How did you manage bottle feeding with Bea? Did she ever refuse the bottle?

  8. Bea is adorable. she has now got to the age where handprints on windows and mirrors are unavoidable.
    It sounds like she will be a wonderful big sister.
    congratulations.

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